The Art Of Making Mistakes

We are here on Planet Earth to evolve. (and enjoy ourselves of course!) Human life is an invitation for ego dissolution and spiritual evolution. We tend to grow the most through mistakes and pain. This means that when we make a mistake – it is an individualized gift for each our unique growth needs.

There are four key steps to using mistakes wisely:

1. ADMIT WRONG DOING

Best is if we catch ourselves and immediately admit wrong doing. But sometimes some else points out our mistake and it can feel embarrassing. However - if we are fully open and eager to grow – the embarrassment quickly shifts into gratitude that a shadow in our ego body is exposed - and has a chance of being released. In order for a conditioned bad habit - to be freed from ego – we must first acknowledge that our action was wrong. And wrong means that our action did not serve Love and it did not serve our own and thus simultaneously not anyone else’s growth potential.

1. CONTEMPLATE DEEPLY

Taking some time to fully feel and understand our regret will greatly escalate our maturation. Why was it wrong? What caused us to act this way? Identify this pattern of behavior from previous situations. Also contemplate what alternative action would have served Love and everyone’s growth. When we take a moment to get clarity around these questions - we are less likely to repeat the same mistake - and more likely to act in the service of Love and everyone’s spiritual evolution.

1. APOLOGIZE

A sincere apology is important because it releases the situation and our un-serving pattern. It does not matter if the person we wronged is able to receive the apology or not. We do not need to be “forgiven” by them. What is important is that we expose our own Heart’s sincere regret. If the other party is unable to receive this Love – that is their problem. Not ours.

But if they can receive our apology – an uncomfortable circumstance can turn into an experience of True Love and change a hurtful and destructive circumstance into something nurturing.

If you on the other hand skip this step and do not apologize – you hold on to pride – you strengthen your ego instead of liberating it – and similar situations are bound to keep occurring with increasing force and frequency.

1. FORGIVE YOURSELF

This last step is important. If you skip forgiving yourself - you are indulging in an egotistical form of self-sabotage – or a twisted kind of victimhood - which keeps you imprisoned in ego - instead of freeing yourself from it.

Once you have 1. Admitted your mistake 2. Contemplated it deeply and 3. Apologized with a sincere Heart - you can Forgive Yourself. Let go of the event – move on - and trust that if a similar situation ever takes place – you are very likely to react differently.

If you are able to go through these four steps with an open and genuine Heart. Whatever kind of situation you were in - will soon stop appearing - because it has served its purpose to support your personal dissolution and spiritual evolution.

But as long as we are not Saints – situations that point out where we still have growth opportunity will continue to appear. However – if we are able to meet these events with firm intent to keep evolving – they will decrease in intensity and frequency – at the same time as our life becomes more and more filled with flow, harmony, joy and gratitude.